It’s Persistent. Forceful and unexpected. It’s true but unique to you.
A calling is the ache, yearning and even restless feeling of knowing something is deeper than what’s on the surface. It’s not even one thing necessarily. Sometimes a calling could just mean being a mother, a father even a wanderluster. But it is that thing that calls to you.
Sometimes you ignore or nudge away because society has told you it’s silly to dream. To be realistic, that’s not a job, how would that even work? They might also tell you what you should do. Im here to tell you that’s all hogwash. You have a divine right to do what you wish to do.
Hard to measure but I’ve come to the point where I could explain.
It’s that thing you love doing so much you feel in your element. You crave it more than fear it. It’s so a part of you, it shakes your core.
It comes natural when you do it, when you think of it. You could go for hours or days and never get bored, tired or even lonely doing it.
You could call it your passion, you’re mission, or your purpose. But everyone in time comes to know there is something greater for them. So much that it could feel like something is missing when you’re not achieving it.
I believe that we all must be selfish. We must enrich our lives in order to be there for others. However, we must learn when to be selfless always. You’re calling is usually bigger than you. It’s so unique to you, like our fingerprint or dna, that to neglect for a lifetime is selfish. Maybe even tragic.
Everyone has something great to give inside them. Believe it or not you’re calling is your contribution to the whole of what we are a part of. The beauty about learning what our calling is and then going about fulfilling it is when we can begin to live fully giving to the world we live in.
“What I know for sure: There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” — Oprah Winfrey
Why we tend to ignore it?
Most try to place importance on the practicality of things. While I agree, that this is necessary in our day to day lives. What results is that we put limits and boundaries on our creative assets. Some feel its too challenging, or inconceivable to reach.
This is why it’s tragic
When you ignore it you diminish the greatness of your life. You dim your light. Either the thing you seek becomes too late to go after. It has dwindled to the point of being unrecognizable. Or worse, you reach a breaking point.
I’ve seen people become depressed, unhinged or just completely lost repeating the things they hate doing.
Don’t waste time
Live in the moment they say.
This couldn’t be anymore true. At times the idea of doing what you need to do versus the things you want to do conflict. Where it feels like a double edge sword. But over time when I realize it’s now or never, it all comes down to one question,
Is the fear of trying bigger than the fear of regretting not doing the thing you love doing?
The thing is, sometimes we have to go through certain experiences and hurdles to get to where we are. To where we ideally want to be. We have to experience the crap to get to the good. To get to the things we really love doing and from there we work hard at it. Real hard.
Everyone has god given abilities. When you use them and are crazy overjoyed about it, that’s usually an indication that is a calling.
However if there is something your good at but don’t enjoy all that much, then it isn’t. Either way you know.
For example, I know how to cook. I can make a filet mignon, just as well as I can make killer lasagna. But do I enjoy being in the kitchen, chopping and dicing? Not exactly. I’ve had friends tell me I should become a chef, open my own restaurant. And their right. I would love it and probably be great at it. Unfortunately I just prefer to eat great food, rather than cook it.
A calling is a guide. A divine directive to bring us closer to our bliss. To get back to the purity of life and to become more obedient for what I’d like to think is already laid out for us.
The gifts you are given provides you that guidance. It requires faith. When Im confused or feeling lost I ask for strength not for answers. I ask for the strength to find the answers. To pay more attention to what has already been given to me and the will to see more than what is. To gain the strength in order to go out there and get it for myself.
“My daughter becoming an actress was never my dream or my desire for her, but that’s what she enjoys doing, and it’s her passion and it’s where she ended up. — Johnny Depp
It will nag at you.
It will probably never cease.
What will I regret, if tomorrow were to be the last?)
What captivates you? What are you most fitted to do? What are you intrinsically motivated to do?
Just stop and listen
When things don’t turn out the way I expected or the way I wanted, I see this as universal influence. These are signs, sometimes instruction, whether clear as day or little whispers. I don’t get upset anymore. In fact I develop a sense of relief that overcomes me because I see it as a language that tells me there’s something greater. That what I truly want is waiting for me.
We don’t listen because we are distracted. Most people dabble, or just follow others, rather their own heart. Sometimes, we walk eyes closed because it’s just easier that way.
But here’s why you should never ignore your calling.
This could possibly be the worst thought to consider. I believe we could change what we want for our lives. Regret is something that stays with you. You cant undo the past and go back in time. Frightening to say the least, because there are no do overs as you get older. Cease the moment and really reflect if you do anything at all. That’s the first step to clarifying what is calling you.
2. Lack of fulfillment
You most recognize this feeling when you see someone else sharing their gift. You see the sense of joy in them when they are out their doing what they love. The very definition of fulfilment is the “satisfaction or happiness as a result of fully developing one’s abilities or character” or reaching the “the achievement of something desired.” Now you tell me if this is something you be ok with not doing in your lifetime?
3. Feeling incomplete or empty
The way I see it, there is no greater feeling than the sense of completeness or wholeness. Sometimes that feeling could arise from finding your soulmate. But nevertheless if you ignore your calling you will always have a nagging feeling that something else is out there for you. Look for themes, patterns and things that come back to you over and over. If anything, acknowledge the void within you.
4. We are meant to be creators, not imitators.
Creation is what makes this world go round. There is a reason we are living in an age of rising entrepreneurs. More and more people today are starting to see that to create is to live fully. To express what’s inside them, evolve, to share and aid. The coolest thing for me is seeing my ideas come into fruition. Even the smallest accomplishments have brought me the most joy.
5. Don’t ignore the whispers
This takes some dedication. At first you wont even know it, but the more you pay attention to your physiological responses the easier it becomes to train yourself to acknowledge even the smallest of whispers. When you listen to those inner impulses, you become more in tune with the divine world around you and the people in it. It shows greater respect for yourself.
Now you tell me if you really want to ignore your calling?
I leave you with this.
“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They already know what you truly want to become” — Steve jobs